Many women lawyers long to receive recognition for their achievements. The desire for recognition is common for individuals in any profession but in the legal profession, achievement is not enough. There is a drive for high achievement – to be the “go to” person for specific skills such as : problem solving, passionate negotiating, persuasive writing, and inspiring leadership.

Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, psychologist and author, wrote about women and stress. In her book, The Type E Woman: How to Overcome the Sresss of Being Everything To Everybody. Dr. Braiker noted that “high –achieving” for women “refers to characteristic ways of thinking about achievement, rather than how high on the career ladder a woman may be.

Dr. Braiker listed certain assumptions women frequently have in mind as they seek recognition for high-achievement:

I. I have to be perfect and do things perfectly.

2. I should be able to manage it all and accomplish it all without feeling stressed or tired.

3. I have to prove myself to everyone.

4. I can’t relax until I finish what I have to do.

5. I should be able to accomplish more in a day.

6. I can handle it all on my own.

7. I have to be a people pleaser – I’ll please others by doing what they ask me to do.”

The odds of a women lawyer being recognized as a high-achiever are diminished by this faulty thinking. Her high-achievement aspirations are further diminished in a legal environment where she has:

• Little control over work assigned to her
• Must meet high billable hours requirements
• Intimidation as a frequent leadership style
• Few opportunities for professional development
• Policies which discourage or disallow flexibility

If a woman lawyer wants to receive a “high-achievement” award, the surest path may be to take a step back from the work environment and from the expectations of others. Reflect instead on personal values, strengths, available energy and personal goals.

When a woman lawyer serves her clients with the highest possible integrity, appreciates the talents of others, and recognizes that learning is a life-long process, she has received the “high- achievement” award and can continue to receive this award throughout her career.

On the winding path, people going in will meet those coming out.  There is a sense of connection: with your breath and with whatever is happening in your life. Walking toward the center gives space to let go of worries and distractions – to quiet the mind.  Pausing at the center permits meditation for guidance.  Leaving the center and following the path back out can create a strong sense of clarity and resolve.   

People around the world use the labyrinth as a non-denominational, cross-cultural tool of well-being.  In the past 15 years hospitals, homes, spas and retreat centers, public parks, churches, colleges, schools, and businesses have incorporated the labyrinth inside and outside of their properties.  The City University of New York School of Law has a labyrinth.   Girls Incorporated in Pinellas Park, Florida has a labyrinth for girls 5-17 years old to inspire them to be strong, smart, and bold.

 If you are interested in locating the labyrinth nearest to you, go to http://labyrinthlocator.com.  I found the Dancing Goddess Labyrinth and 52 other labyrinths within 100 miles of my zip code. Peace.

Businesses demonstrate an alternative to the blame game.   Companies concerned about lack of innovation have rewarded mistakes as one way to spark innovation.  Sue Shellenbarger in a Wall Street Journal article, “Better Ideas Through Failures,” cites examples of companies who recognize employees, who are trying to do a good job, make a mistake and learn from the experience.  There is the “Best New Mistake” award at SurePayroll and Heroic Failure trophy at a New York advertising company. 

When a mistake happens, the chagrined employees do not hear, “You screwed up, or “You messed up.”  They hear “Let’s talk about what we learned.”  The object is learning – not performance.  This is certainly not possible in every situation but worth considering to foster collaboration in a legal environment. 

Collaboration where ideas flow freely and lawyers trust one another would reduce stress and energize intelligent risk-taking.  It would be fertile ground for attorneys to refer business to trusted colleagues and would generate a positive environment to generate business.  As women lawyers strive to distinguish themselves as professionals and reach leadership positions within their organizations, consider replacing the mistakes blame game with more innovative learning perspectives to retain talent, to better serve clients and to development new business.

What if you practice law and  feel frustrated by always evaluating a situation based on the logical reason for someone’s positon?  You may be more of a right brain thinker rather than a left brain thinker.

In the current business climate, where lawyers are looking for ways to distinguish their legal talents, right brain thinking is highly valued. Legal goddesses are finding their right brain skills can yield business success.

Check in with a quick free assessment to learn if you are more of a left brain or a right brain thinker!

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• ·         knowledge of the law, rules, regulations and case law in her practice area of law
• ·         knowledge of her clients concerns
• ·         knowledge of her employer’s goals (make money, serve large number of disadvantaged clients, support other departments, etc)
• ·         knowledge of how to transform desired outcomes into reality

To be an incredible lawyer – one who is sought after by those looking for the best, a lawyer must demonstrate:

•         willingness to feel the joy of playing with new ideas
•         willingness to give up others ideas of perfection
•         willingness to enjoy the process, not just the outcome
•         willingness to explore her intuition

Having a logical, fact-oriented mind plus a curious open mind brings value to those you serve and freedom to practice law as an adventure!

 These women lawyers make decisions that influence large groups of people.  Managing Partners and General Counsels made decisions that influence financial balance sheets of their organizations.

Powerful leadership is not simply expressions of something women lawyers do.  It is also authentic expressions of who they are. 

•         Powerful women lawyers connect with others.
•         Powerful women lawyers honor values.
•         Powerful women lawyers serve the greater good.

All women lawyers have the potential to be powerful if they are willing to demonstrate legal expertise and lead with their hearts to connect with others, honor their personal values and take courageous actions.

• · Credentials
• · Technical skills
• · Analysis of facts
• · Certainty of conclusions
• · Short term results

• · competence as well as credentials.
• · an advisory approach that includes collaboration in addition to technical skills and analysis of facts.
• · not only the certainty of conclusions and short term desired results but also the  flexibility for different options and a long term trusting relationships.

Ada Harriet Miser, born on February 11, 1847, was the first American woman
to graduate from law school.  Her
husband, attorney Henry B. Kepley encouraged his wife to attend law school at
Union College of Law (Northwestern University) in Chicago.  She received her LLB in 1870. When her
husband learned that state law prohibited Ada from receiving a license to
practice law, he helped her to draft a bill forbidding sex discrimination in
the legal and other professions. The bill passed and became law in 1872 but Ada
did not receive her license until 1881. Rather than practice law full time, she
focused her energies on promoting equal rights for women, women’s suffrage, and
temperance. 

Lawyer Ada Kepley noted in her autobiography, “I like to be at the front of
great movements as far as possible.” 
With the help of her husband, this legal goddess ran for Illinois State
Attorney General in 1881as the Prohibition Party candidate.  She used the election platform to raise
awareness for women’s right to vote and hold public office and to promote
temperance.  She knew she had no chance
of winning but viewed her candidacy as “good agitation.” Ada Kepley’s “good
agitation” opened the door for women to pursue not only a legal career but also
other careers.  Her husband’s dedication
to her career and to the rights of women played a major role in generating the
power necessary to ignite that good agitation!

]]> http://www.legalgoddessnetwork.com/husband-mentors-legal-goddess/feed/ 0 http://www.legalgoddessnetwork.com/pressure-without-panic-4/ http://www.legalgoddessnetwork.com/pressure-without-panic-4/#comments Mon, 16 May 2011 20:50:46 +0000 admin http://www.legalgoddessnetwork.com/?p=535 Most days for women lawyers have some form of pressure. There may be deadlines, difficult conversations, commitments vs. available time, risky decisions, personal family challenges, and mandates to step outside the proverbial “comfort zone.”

Some women lawyers seem to flow through these pressure-packed days with ease. Others struggle to perform at their usual high standards. What makes the difference? How can you be legal goddesses who thrive and motivate those around you to reach new heights of performance?

Justin Menkes in his book, Better Under Pressure, discovered three keys for optimal performance under pressure: realistic optimism, subservience to purpose and finding order in chaos. Mr. Menkes interviewed 150 CEOs to learn their secrets.

Mr.Menkes shared with the Harvard Business Review how successful CEOs saw their work as a mission. They were passionate about connecting their work with a higher good. They made this connection every day.
Successful women lawyers, like successful CEOs, appreciate the importance of connecting with a higher purpose every day. Practicing law only for financial compensation is not a cure for stress! If you are serious about being a successful lawyer, take a moment to identify how you can make a difference to your clients. You will have a better day!